Okay I have a spicy one for you! How can I get over the internal cringe I feel when I try to talk dirty during sexy fun times? My partner and I have have been together for 10 years, but I still have this fear that I just sound idiotic when I try to sound sexy. It's like even though I know he'd never make fun of me, the fear of rejection is paralyzing.
Okay I have a spicy one for you! How can I get over the internal cringe I feel when I try to talk dirty during sexy fun times? My partner and I have have been together for 10 years, but I still have this fear that I just sound idiotic when I try to sound sexy. It's like even though I know he'd never make fun of me, the fear of rejection is paralyzing.
Ahhh I LOVE SPICY ONES! This is amazing. Honestly, I think MOST people, and I won't speak for anyone else, but MOST people (who don't have Autism and ZERO Filter) have trouble talking dirty. The crippling sense of silliness, and fear of some kind of rejection (even though it would never come) can stop us doing a lot of things we might end up loving, or that might end up enriching our lives, sexual or otherwise. My advice, start small. You don't have to come right out of the gate moaning about dripping body parts and using hardcore XXX terminology or language. You can start by slowly talking about the places you want touched, the ways you want it done, and build from there. Start with the challenge of a word or two that may have previously felt too Taboo to bring up, and when you're comfortable there, add, experiment, try. I feel this is the same with trying new things sexually too, so many people are an instant "No" without ever slowly trying. Obviously there are hard nos, and hard lines we draw, but for those that aren't that, why not see? I'm infinitely curious, and I always will be, so I'm all for the experimentation.
Okay I have a spicy one for you! How can I get over the internal cringe I feel when I try to talk dirty during sexy fun times? My partner and I have have been together for 10 years, but I still have this fear that I just sound idiotic when I try to sound sexy. It's like even though I know he'd never make fun of me, the fear of rejection is paralyzing.
Ahhh I LOVE SPICY ONES! This is amazing. Honestly, I think MOST people, and I won't speak for anyone else, but MOST people (who don't have Autism and ZERO Filter) have trouble talking dirty. The crippling sense of silliness, and fear of some kind of rejection (even though it would never come) can stop us doing a lot of things we might end up loving, or that might end up enriching our lives, sexual or otherwise. My advice, start small. You don't have to come right out of the gate moaning about dripping body parts and using hardcore XXX terminology or language. You can start by slowly talking about the places you want touched, the ways you want it done, and build from there. Start with the challenge of a word or two that may have previously felt too Taboo to bring up, and when you're comfortable there, add, experiment, try. I feel this is the same with trying new things sexually too, so many people are an instant "No" without ever slowly trying. Obviously there are hard nos, and hard lines we draw, but for those that aren't that, why not see? I'm infinitely curious, and I always will be, so I'm all for the experimentation.
well said! >high five<